What happens when boys like girls or vice versa? They fall in love right? Only if its that SIMPLE. But heck, life's always COMPLICATED. Been wanting to share this for quite a while, but as usual, I obviously need motivators/reasons (good ones) to start. Just that recently, there's just lots of speculating relationships (inclusive of break-ups) and yada yada. You might wonder what is it to me, well, I can HONESTLY tell you that Im just NOT being nosy, just SHARING!
Was on the phone earlier with Gracie, talking about boy, girl relationship, mostly. Very random and sudden. Haha. But what I'm sharing here are of those complicated relationship. Em, well, not in a relationship to begin with. Well, this is my point of view, so keep your own opinions to yourself, alright? No names shall be mentioned in order to protect the privacy of various individuals. Sounded like a love guru? Nah! Im still learning even in my very own one.
Scenario #1.
Boy A in a few years relationship with this girl. However, he started getting intimate (a lil bit of flirting perhaps?) with a friend, Girl A, of his. And somehow, his mixed signals has been driving Girl A a lil confuse about the situation. After all, he's attached, isnt he? So, why is he doing such things? Besides, Girl A has a bad history of liking a guy previously who's ALSO in a relationship. And best of all, Boy A knows about her history but subconsciously inflicting this to Girl A over again? Being the confidante of Girl A, it was a hell of a time for her to get over of the previous 'so-called' relationship, so obviously, does not want to see karma repeating itself! Girl A does not see it is necessary to open up to Boy A of his doings to her in such manner but just going with the flow which is just messing up with her head of why is this happening?!
Scenario #2
Girl B likes, or maybe had a crush on Boy B who's a dancer. A famous one among his peers especially. Given his looks and all (according to Girl B), it is to die for; given the talent in dancing and a more average looking type of guy to me as compared that Girl B is mad over heels for Boy B. The issue is that Boy B is aware of her crush towards him, but at the same time going with the flow. Girl B will constantly be Facebook-ing on his profile, checking messages posted on his profile from his various fans (girls mostly) going ga-ga over him and to an extent that SOME are in such delusional state that he's the boyfriend! Well, this is what you get when you're famous? All sorts of people will want to own you in such way, praying and hoping or maybe even ASSUMING you're already his/hers! Girl B is partly in denial as subconciously thinking that he's the boyfriend even though she isnt those obsessive type as in normal daily life, she's perfectly clear that they're not together but mainly just friends, however, at the same time harbouring her feelings towards him. In short, she finds that their friends but actions speaks louder than words as it says otherwise of that a girlfriend should be doing for a boyfriend. Constant sms-ing and calls every other day to Boy B leaves me thinking that she's probably doing too much. And in such way, she may not be seeing results out of it, if this prolongs BUT she's happy in doing so. As a good friend, at times, I just kept to myself, knowing for a fact that she's pining for interactions of Boy B in which she knows, well, perfectly clear of what she's up to.
Scenario #3
Girl C is happily in her current relationship. At the same time, she's aware of the love of from Boy C. Yet, she treated Boy C AS IF she's a true boyfriend, at times asking him to run errands for her and stuffs. SADLY, Boy C is WILLING to be bossed around by her in return of his love for her. BUT in turn both Boy C and Girl C are aware of the 'actual' situation where she loves her boyfriend but at the same time, is willing to accept the attention, love and care from Boy C. From the account of Boy C, he knows that its a foolish act to be around for her whenever she needed him but can't help feeling that way for her as Boy C has never love someone so deeply, compared to his previous ex-es. Also, it was also undeniable that Boy C is willing to wait for Girl C's in return for her love and such, in which for the period of time, it might not be happening at all. So, where's the point of this? Short to say, Boy C is happy even it is not how it should be.
The irony of the three scenarios are that although no confirmation of relationships, but yet they're happy in their own ways.
At the same time, there are also couples who has been together for years (3-5), but it ended! Yes, sad I know. But every other relationship has their own storyline behind those breakings and outsiders does not have the right to be judgemental or even understand! If its meant to be, then it is; if its not, so be it! Quote from a friend, "It's better to be with no one than to be with the wrong one!'. SO TRUE. Obviously, these individuals has made their own desicions and I do wish them happiness. My blessings goes to them. =)
Its easy just to fall in love but proves to be more than that when you're in one. Going through obstacles of ups and downs in the relationship and obviously making the best out of it. Let's just say, it's definitely challenging to maintain one and to truly love someone who you see a future in. Shouldn't it be in happy endings where couple exchange vows, starting a family and to grow old with together? Eventually, it's just all or nothing right? But I still believe its all up to individuals whether or not they're putting in effort to really make the best out of their relationship and the saying goes, it will definitely pays off in the ends!
Cheers!
p/s: All above are not of fictional characters but are true in many ways! Forgive me if I MAY have exaggerated the stories conveyed through BUT its all based solely on my POINT OF VIEW and you may disagree with what I might have added in.
